It’s been almost 5 years of my writing career for Indian television shows. And trust me, there have been very few shows on whom you would get content to write about every other alternative day. Kuch Rang Pyar Ke Aise Bhi is one such show. It always comes up with at least one scene or sequence in every episode which evokes the viewers’ thought process in a completely different level. The best part of the show is that the characters sketched in the fiction drama are very real. The situations are also real. Moreover, the dialogues given to each character sound as if we have heard people saying such things in and around us so many times. May be at that time, it didn’t sound so right or wrong as it appears when it is shown on screen. The show has been so far true to its name. Right, jealousy, insecurity, possessiveness, obsessiveness are all part and parcel of one feeling, Love. And Kuch Rang Pyar Ke Aise Bhi has concentrated on all these feelings very minutely through each of its episodes.
In the last article, we talked about ‘giving up’. This one is about ‘Rights’. Today we heard Ishwari talking about how much ‘right’ Dev’s sisters have on him, his wealth and his property. Even Sonakshi assured Neha that she first has more ‘right’ on Dev as a sister than Sonakshi as a wife. It’s nothing bad. In fact, every sister has right on their brother. So does a mother and so does a wife. But problem arises, when one starts measuring how much ‘right’ (haq), each people in a family has on one person. There isn’t a measuring tape to measure this ‘right’. If there had been, Ishwari and Neha would have utilised it, measured their ‘haq’ on Dev everyday and wrote the units of the measurement on a black board to remind him everyday about the increase or decrease in the proportion of their ‘right’ on him. Must say, this guy is too much loved. It’s an overdose for him in fact. Hopefully, such overdose will not suffocate him in future. Too much of anything isn’t good for anyone.
Dev has also proved earlier that he belongs to the same family. His expression of ‘right’ on Sonakshi during their courtship period as well as after their break up is a much talked about matter. Well, that was something which was justified by saying ‘Pyar Haq De Deta Hai’, which is true in some cases. But how would you justify it, if the same ‘haq’ becomes a meter of competition? Right now, Ishwari via Neha, is trying to compete with Sonakshi on the level of ‘right’ they have on Dev.
While Sonakshi is absolutely not bothered about Ishwari and Neha’s loud claim on Dev’s property or their right on him, they repeatedly keep saying it, may be to remind that to her or to reassure themselves again and again.
But seeing the episodes, one can analyse a very simple thing. Love truly give you right on someone. But how the person will reciprocate to your expressions of right depends on your expression of love. It’s normal human tendency, we generally become more emotionally depended on people who give us freedom in love and unintentionally we give them the ‘right’ on our heart, soul and mind without them asking for it. That’s how Dev has given Sona the ‘right’ on him. She never expressively did ask for it as he did or his family does. But she earned it. That’s how Sona loved Dev. It’s pure, giving and never really measured or competed with other existent lovable people in his life. Just like she said once, ‘her love for him will not compete with anyone but will complete his existing relationships’.
There’s a reason why Dev did fall for this woman so irrevocably and why even his mother (who is his God) could not make him turn away his back from her. There’s a reason why Dev considers himself as the luckiest man in the world to have Sona in his life. She is truly a gem. But Ishwari or Neha, two insecure people in life, never really gave him that freedom. They have expressed their love and claimed their right on him by caging his happiness. Now how long will Dev be able to reciprocate to their claim of right on him under such circumstances?
Sonakshi is probably too good for a normal person. Don’t know if a wife would really be so unaffected with her mother in law and sister in law openly discussing about their right on her husband completely ignoring her presence in his life as Sona was shown to be. But the biggest strength of Sonakshi has been her ‘goodness’. Her ‘goodness’ is also another reason for Ishwari’s insecurity which she expressed in front of her brother. She is scared that Sona’s goodness may take Dev away from them. But why? Does Ishwari subconsciously realises that she is not being able to be as good as she should have been? You fear somebody’s goodness only when you are not being good enough.
This over analysis of right of her daughters on Dev’s property made Ishwari do something which she probably would never be able to explain to her son. She made him sign pre-nup papers without letting him know. Today, when the divorce drama of Neha and Ranveer has kick started, the existing pre-nup papers signed by Dev holds more importance. It constantly remind the viewer that it is something that is soon going to come up as a big blow to Dev and Sonakshi. But will Ishwari realise that it would be her who would be responsible for creating the next Ranveer and Neha in her own home? And about Neha. Well, she would not listen or give importance to Sonakshi’s words until she understands the fact and the brutal truth that her home is not really a bed of roses for Sonakshi as she thinks to be.
Lets just hope, when Neha decides to reconcile with Ranveer, before leaving her home, she is able to give her mother a lesson. The lesson is about how to look minutely at the mirror. One good look at Neha and herself and she would understand where even she is going wrong. Once Ishwari learns that, she would probably be able to learn from her own mistakes and finally give Sonakshi the ‘right’ that she deserves to have in that house. Ishwari still has a long journey to travel from being an ever so loving, responsible yet super possessive, blind and ignorant mother (sometimes to her daughters) to being an understanding and loving mother in law.
Ishwari hasn’t given Sonakshi her right yet in her house. She says that Sona is a good girl, she wishes good things for her, she is Dev’s wife. But is still indifferent towards the fact that Sona is also Dixit family’s daughter in law. There’s a very relatable quote of J.K. Rowling in Harry Potter and The Order Of The Phoenix in this regards. Quoting it as many readers would have read the very famous novels from the series. Any potter head would recognise it. It says, “Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike”. Ishwari has taken the same path of damage.